I always thought I wanted a big family – 4 kids at least! For us, it took a recent pregnancy and a miscarriage (of what would have been our third child) to realise that we were truly done and happy with just the gruesome twosome.
I love pregnancy and thanks to my daughter’s birth – I’d do it all again in a heartbeat. But the third child that comes with it all? It seems we hadn’t given that part much thought when we rushed into trying again.
Here’s why we’re done having kids and why two feels right for us…
Two feels neat and tidy – a third would most definitely bring chaos. We’re very lucky to have been blessed with two happy, loving children who sleep well – There is no way in hell that we’re going to hit the jackpot a third time!
I’m still in control (at least I feel that way) – I only have two hands, one to hold onto each child. How do you hold onto three when you’re on your own? I struggle to walk the dog and both kids as it is.
We’re still in control – it’s even easier when we’re out as a family. I take one child and my partner takes the other. Sorted.
We’re well balanced – Our family of four consists of two males and two females. There’s no outnumbering going on under this roof.
The car issue – also the house and holiday issue… It seems everything is built around being a family of four. I LOVE my BMW. You will not catch me dead in a ‘mummy wagon’.
School fees – We have an amazing choice of primary state schools in our area but we’re severely lacking decent secondary schools. This means that we’re looking at sending our children to private school for their secondary years… You can’t really send one and not the other(s)!
No middle child issues – Is there such a thing as middle child issues? Well, I’m one of three, the eldest, and the middle one has issues… So yes, maybe it is a thing. With two children, we have an eldest and a youngest. Simple.
Our dinner table feels full – there is no one missing. Our family feels complete.
Family of four just feels right for us.
How many children do you have? Are you done? How do you know? I’d love to hear your thoughts x